1. Communication – Have age appropriate discussion with your children regarding any questions or concerns they are expressing. Always remember that they likely know more about the situation and what is going on than you think. Be mindful not to discuss the content of marital issues, but instead talk openly about what the living arrangements will be moving forward. This will help them to understand that while you and your spouse will no longer be living together, nonetheless a high level of stability and consistency will continue in your child’s life.
2. Encourage respect for other Parent – Always encourage and foster love and respect of the child towards the other parent. Although you may not feel cordial and amicable towards your soon to be ex spouse, your child loves this person, you (and you spouse) must respect this fact.
3. Never degrade the other Parent – NEVER speak words of negativity about your spouse in the presence of your child. Not only is this extremely inappropriate but it is immensely confusing to the child and often makes them feel as though they are being put in the middle of the “battle field”.
4. Family Counseling & Therapy – If your child seems confused or disengaged due to the divorce/litigation proceedings that are now taking place, Family therapy is an excellent source to be utilized. Children often feel secure knowing that there is a third party that they can trust. This helps them understand and overcome the issues and clarify any confusion or fears they may be harboring.